Our emotions and behaviors are not caused directly by events, but by our beliefs about those events.
Irrational beliefs (e.g., "I must be perfect", "One mistake means my career is over") lead to unhealthy emotions (anxiety, shame, rage) and unhelpful behaviors (alcohol, isolation, giving up).
Rational / alternative beliefs (e.g., "I can learn from this", "Every shift is a new opportunity") lead to healthier emotions (determination, composure) and constructive actions.
π SMER extends ABC with a clear stepβbyβstep tool: Situation β Mindset (Belief) β Emotion β Response. Replace irrational B with flexible B β and see how C changes on the ice and in the room.